Natural Hair – Overcoming the Struggle!

So since I last left you, I was beyond frustrated with my natural hair and almost ready to throw in the towel. Well, I am happy to report that I have overcome the tug of war struggle with my natural locks, and we have called a truce.
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I realized that all I really needed to do was figure out what my hair needs at this stage in the game is. As you go natural, there are many different stages with their own individual needs – this is true especially if you decide to keep letting your hair grow, rather than sricking to a particular style. I had to assess what my hair needed in order to thrive, and with a little trial and error and some ingenuity on my part – I found my answer.

First off, no matter what you are doing, you must keep your hair moisturized!  I wasn’t giving it the moisture love it needed. So I put together my own hair spritz, moisturizer and revitalizer into a spray bottle and went to town. I mixed 1 part safflower oil to 3 parts water, about a half dollar sized amount of conditioner and  a few drops of peppermint essential oil and shook vigorously to mix all ingredients.

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After washing my hair, I used this hair spritz all over my towel dried hair and then added my secret weapon – face primer! Sounds crazy right? But what I discovered is that Younique cosmetics “Glorious Face and Eye Primer” is a fantastic all natural protector for heat styling, blow outs, etc – as well as being a nice sealant for my hair spritz. You only need about 3-4 pumps (depending on your hair type) in your hand to distrubute evenly throughout your hair.

After I moisturize and seal my hair, I put it into several twists to dry and curl and the next day I can do my twist out. Healthy hair, better style, happy girl!

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My advice to all natural divas, no matter what stage you’re at – do not give up and don’t give in to the temptation of going back to the creamy crack if you are still desiring to maintain your beatiful natural tresses. A little extra work and time spent on your hair now,  will keep it manageable and easier to work with later. So keep at it naturalists – if my lazy butt can do this,  I know you all can!

To order Younique’s Glorious Face and Eye Primer (by the way it is incredible when used as  was meant to be as an actual primer lol) check with younique.com to find a local sales associate.

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Natural Hair – The Struggle

A little while ago, I wrote about how happy I was to be going natural with my hair. In fact, when my one year “natural anniversary” came around in April – I felt like a new woman. I had made it a full year without putting any harsh straightening chemicals in my hair – I felt like I could conquer the world!

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Fast forward just under six months later, and my elation and excitement about being natural has begun to wane a bit. Don’t get me wrong, I am still very happy and proud of myself for staying off the creamy crack for such a long period of time. The problem is, I don’t know what I’m supposed to do next. Do I cut it and rock a short natural doo, or do I continue to let it grow and try to get like some of my hair crushes with long beautiful natural tresses. In the meantime, I am not doing my hair justice by keeping it in pinned up twists 24/7 that usually end up with fuzzy edges – BORING.

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Some days I am so close to walking around the corner to CVS and getting myself a Dark n Lovely relaxer kit, turning off the phone, closing the curtains and blinds and just slathering it all over my head . Other days I just want to break out the clippers, chop it all off and start over. In this journey, I am discovering that there is so much more than just going natural. I thought I would stop relaxing and that would be the end all be all of my story. But I am here to tell those of you just starting out or maybe considering it – that when these women talk about their “natural journey”, that is exactly what it is, a journey that is ever evolving.

Even though I have had my temptations to undo all the progress I have made,  I do not regret it for one second. No matter what style I embrace next or when putting in the extra work that I now realize is required for proper care, I have ultimately taken a huge step in rediscovering myself. I love washing my hair and seeing the true texture that God has blessed me with. When putting in the good smelling natural oils and creams that I make or buy, I know that I am nourishing my hair and scalp rather than stripping it.

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So yes, this is a journey that I, and I’m sure many others struggle with from time to time – but at the end of the day, I know it is an investment in myself and that I am revealing the person I was meant to be.

And I most certainly do not miss those chemical burns on my scalp due to my hair dresser running her mouth while I sat in the chair squirming!

Spring Break Photo Shoot

Over the past 10 days, I had the joy of having my 21 year old niece visit me here in California while she was on Spring Break from school in Virgina. Although we had been in touch for quite a while, this was our first time meeting face to face. I wanted to provide her with a unique experience, so I arranged for her to have a photo shoot while she was here.

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In the above picture, she is wearing just a hint of makeup (remember the “no makeup” makeup?). As you can see, she is a beautiful young woman, however for her shoot she wanted to glam things up a bit.

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We had an opportunity to do two different looks; a bridal shoot (which almost brought tears to my eyes, she looked so beautiful) and an evening formal look. Having never modeled or worn that much makeup before, she was phenomenal and the shoot went extremely well.

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As she was getting ready for bed that evening, I made it a point to congratulate her on the day’s success. I also wanted to be sure to impress upon her that, although the makeup she wore was a beautiful enhancement, she was beautiful before we started the makeup process. It was important to me that she realized that her beauty came from within and that anything on top of that was merely icing on the cake.

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I am very proud of this intelligent, beautiful young woman and eagerly look forward to her next visit!

DIY Hair Gel!

So I have been on this natural hair journey for a while now, but only in the last 8 months have I been giving it a serious try. By “serious”, I mean I am no longer claiming to be a Naturalista while secretly using a texturizer – I’m all in this time. During this process, I have discovered many new ways to care for my hair without emptying my wallet. One crucial way has been to start make some of my own hair products. Doing this allows me to not only save money, but it also satisfies the control freak in me by letting me monitor exactly what goes onto my hair. Today, I will share with you the very first recipe I ever tried – which also happens to be the easiest to make; flaxseed hair gel.

You will need the following items:

1/3 cup whole flaxseeds
2 cups water
Small sauce pan
Mesh strainer (nylon wig cap or pantyhose without runs can sub in a pinch)
Mason jar or heavy plastic container with lid
Pot holder
Grapefruit or Lavender essential oil (optional)

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Step one: Pour water and flaxseeds into your pan over medium heat and boil, stirring occasionally. When you see a frothy egg-white consistency, remove from heat but continue to stir for 3-5 more minutes. Mixture should still be hot but not so much so that it will crack or jeopardize your container.

Step two: Place mesh strainer over the mouth of your clean jar/container. In a pinch, you could use a wig cap or pantyhose to strain, however it will be messy and hot – so I really recommend using the mess strainer if you have one.

Step three: Start to pour or spoon gel mixture into strainer. Gel will thicken as it cools, so try to do this quickly (but safely).

Step four (optional): After filling a container with strained gel, add a couple of drops of an essential oil you like to give the mixture and your hair a nice subtle fragrance. I usually alternate between lavender and grapefruit oil.

Now you’re done! Just put the lid on and stick it in the fridge. You can also refrigerate the flaxseeds you just used to make another batch. Both should keep about 15 days if kept cold.

Don’t fret and call me a liar if your first batch isn’t quite as easy as I’ve implied, it may take a little trial and error at first. However, once you find your rhythm you will wonder why you ever paid money for drying hair gels that left your hair hard and crunchy! Flaxseed gel is both moisturizing and nourishing and great for setting and styling.

I hope you have enjoyed and found some inspiration from this tutorial and I encourage you to leave a comment below to let me know how your batch turns out!